Have you heard of phonagnosia?
It is an inability to recognise voices.  

Dr Brad Duchaine, an expert on phonagnosia says: 

“Voice recognition may not seem as important as face recognition, given that failing to recognise someone in front of you can cause much more social anxiety than not recognising them over the phone. Yet we rely on voice recognition in our day-to-day lives, to identify people on the phone or those speaking on the radio.”

The old voice memo recorder is now my only link to the voice of Joyce, my Mum, who died 16 years ago.

When I was living in London, living the high life in PR for 20 years and then for five years living overseas in the Bahamas, we would try to speak every single day (hurricanes and terrible phone lines and internet allowing). 

One day, I got to the phone just as the ansaphone kicked in and accidentally recorded our entire conversation. Nearly an hour of mother/daughter chit chat. 

I bought that tape back with me upon my return to live in the UK and found that it fit an old voice memo recorder that I’d used back in the early 90s as part of my must-have PR and media kit!  

About 6 years ago when I was going through a rather dark time I awoke one night to hear my Mum’s voice in my bedroom. 

It was surreal! 

For some reason the recorder had switched itself on and there she was, chatting away.

Now whatever your opinion of otherworldliness is, I felt it was a very reassuring sign. 

That she was still watching over me. Like the robin I see in the garden most days. 

That tape is really old now and doesn’t always play well but somehow it is a link to the love my Mum and I had for each other.

It is more than a throwback.
On Thursday or anyway.
It is a link to my Mum. 
A voice of reassurance. 

What throwback item links you to someone or something you love? 

P.S. If one of the voices that troubles you is the negative one in your head, welcome to my FREE webinar on how to put it on mute: https://lnkd.in/eUXGM6b4

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1. Change ‘What if?’ to ‘What is?’. Instead of ‘What if…happens?’ ask yourself ‘What is really happening right now? What steps can I take to deal with this today’?.
2. Put the hamster to bed. One of my brilliant podcast guests, Robin Farmanfarmaian shared that when she has a hamster on a wheel in her head, she visualises a safe nesting box full of shredded paper. She pops it in the box, lowers the lights and lets it go to sleep.

💝 Happy hamster. 🧠Happy free mind.

What top tips do you have for getting out of your own head, or putting your hamster to rest? Do share.

One of my clients said recently that: “Rosalyn Palmer is someone who looks at the whiteboard that is your mind – a jumble of words and items – and uses the eraser to get rid of all but the essential ones and then order what is left!”.

I love this. If I can help rearrange the jumbled whiteboard of your mind do let me know in a no obligation chat via this link Contact Rosalyn Palmer – Rosalyn Palmer Transformation Expert

P.P.S If you missed the Monkey Business Podcast episode with Robin Farmanfarmaian then listen here: Become CEO of your own profile to stop being sidelined

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The old one was near its memory capacity and kept crashing when I downloaded things.

Every time this happened, I started to think about how we are rather like computers as we can overload when we try to download too much at once.

Did you know that we can be bombarded by over 14,000,000 bits of information at any time?

To cope with this, we have a filter system called the reticular activating system (RAS) that is a collection of nerves in our brainstems.

It is the portal through which nearly all information enters the brain. It filters out unnecessary stuff so that what we need to focus on gets through.

Like all systems designed to help us, it can also have its drawbacks.

This is the reason why when you decide to be different and buy a yellow car and take it out on the road you see yellow cars everywhere.

It’s the reason that an exhausted mother will snap awake when her child starts to whimper, or why you are in a crowd but suddenly very aware that your name has been mentioned across the room.

At a basic level the RAS will respond to your name, anything that is a threat and information that is needed immediately.

However, from our primeval hard-wiring it also responds to novelty and looks for the new.

For example, you enter a room and spot something different or out of place.

Great when you had to notice what was different to survive but not so great when you are trying to relax at home and keep seeing things that need fixing.

My regular mantra to my partner is: ‘Look for what is right and not what is wrong’ as having seen active service he is primed to look out for what is amiss.

The RAS seeks data that validates your beliefs.

So, if you believe that all dogs are vicious you can walk down a road and not see the ten sweet dogs (that don’t correspond to your filter) but your RAS goes on red alert as you pass the one that’s growling. Thus, reinforcing your initial belief.

At its worst prejudice can develop.

People see what they believe and disregard the rest.

Even a heated debate on the radio or television will see people not change their views or let new information into their filter.

As with all things, understanding is power.

So, understand your RAS and reset it for better results.

This is called establishing your intent and it is rather like a goals or resolutions list.

By setting your intention for what you want to filter in, for example, beauty in nature or people doing kind things, your RAS will help you focus on such a way that you meet the people, find the information and become open to the opportunities you desire.

If you would like to find out more about this book a discovery call with me – https://rosalynpalmer.com/contact/

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